April is almost over, which means that I’ve survived the first month of a new school year.
In Japan, the school years run from April to March, which is a serious disruption to my deeply ingrained September to August calendar (especially since the JET contract is based on the West’s school year). Anyway, what this means is that, on April 6th Tomyoji Junior High School welcomed approximately 150 new ichi-nensei (7th grade) students. However, while many changes have occurred since the new school year began, I would rather focus this particular post on the events held at the end of March.
The graduation ceremonies for Fukui’s junior high schools were held on March 16th. Graduation in Japan is one of the most important school ceremonies (rivaled only by the entrance ceremony in April) and, as such, the students practiced for weeks. They learned songs, wrote speeches, and were forced to participate in hand-numbing clapping drills. To top it off, all of these events were held in the freezing cold gymnasium (we still had snow in March!!) which made them quite unbearable. As always, I was a bit amused by the endless rehearsals. From what I remember, we didn’t even rehearse for JHS graduation in Canada, but I suppose that my JHS grad was more of a party than anything else. In Japan, however, graduation is no laughing (or smiling) matter. In Japan, graduation is sad. Like, really sad. So sad that I cried. So sad that all the graduating students, the non-graduation students, the parents, and the Japanese teachers (both the men and women) cried. So sad that perhaps I should take a moment to explain all the sadness.
In Japan, students basically stay with the same peer group throughout their elementary and junior high school education, and some students will have had the same friends since kindergarten. While this can also be the case in Canada, in Japan a major break occurs once the students complete 9th grade. Japanese high school attendance is based on entrance exams – if you earn high marks, you can go to a top-rated high school, and if you fail, you enter the workforce (Japanese education is only compulsory until 9th grade). Because which high school you go to depends on these exams, students know that it is likely that they will be separated from their friends (which, I think, makes Japanese JHS graduation more akin to Canadian high school graduation). When you throw in Japanese group mentality and the fact that these kids are still at an age where their peers are extremely important to them, what you end up with is an extremely tearful graduation ceremony.
To get you in the right mood for the rest of this post, let’s watch a video! This one was taken at my school’s graduation ceremony. It is of the graduating students singing their graduation/farewell song to the rest of the school and their parents. If you look closely, you can see many students (both girls and boys, graduating and non-graduating) wiping their tears. Good times.
Now that we’ve enjoyed some videos, you’ll understand me when I say that the best word I can think of to describe the ceremony is “solemn”. It’s kind of like a funeral, actually - everyone wears black, there are a lot of speeches, and everyone’s in tears. Now I can’t say that I’m not prone to crying, but I was rather tearful on graduation day. I had become quite close to a few of the san-nensei (9th grade) girls, and was genuinely sad to see them go. I think it was especially hard for me because, as a foreigner who is only staying in Japan temporarily, there is a good possibility that I will never see these people again (sounds fatalistic, I know, but it’s true nonetheless). To top it all off, after the ceremony is over the teachers all line up outside the school to see the students off. As the students exit the school (never to return again), we all clapped and congratulated them. This part is less tearful, but still bittersweet.
While it was a tad embarrassing for me to be crying at work (I come from the West where crying is for sissies – it’s incredibly stupid and lame, but I can’t help it), I couldn’t help but also see my tears in a positive light. At the very least, they were tangible proof that the little monsters that slept through my classes had made an impact on me. In return, the students’ tears were also proof that I had made an impact on them. As one student left the school for the last time, she walked up to say goodbye to me and was only able to get out a shaky “Rinji…” before bursting into tears. It was probably one of the most touching things I have ever experienced. My second favorite moment from that day was when another girl’s mother sought me out to thank me. I had helped her daughter prepare for an English interview that was a part of her entrance exam, and she wanted to thank me for helping her daughter “reach her dream”.
Anyway, those are my musing about Japanese JHS graduation. Sorry if this post seems a bit disjointed, but a bit of time has passed since the actual event (my fault, I know), and I’m having a bit of trouble collecting my thoughts.